rooftop in Geneva, Switzerland

Have you ever taken a personality test? (If you haven’t, take this mini one!) I took it, and I am an INFP. That stands for introversion, intuition, feeling, and perception.

This means a lot of things – it means I tend to be guided by my principles, more than logic (sounds about right) and it also means that I recharge better by myself.

I love being around people. I was raised in a family that loves celebrations and events, which means I had to master the art of conversation from a young age. But even though I love being around people, I crave alone time. I recharge by myself, which is why my personality test results say that I am introverted.

Because I recharge by myself, I try not to overfill my schedule with events. It’s a delicate balance. On one hand- spending time with people is necessary to build friendships (and making friends as an adult is hard enough already,) on the other hand, if I spend too much time with people, I am drained. Totally spent.

I’m learning the hard lesson of the importance of saying no, while also realizing there is power in saying yes. All of life is a balancing act, isn’t it? But because I think self-care is vitally important, I’m trying to find the balance.

Tonight, for instance, I was going to see friends, but after teaching a cardio dance class Monday night as well as teaching cardio dance at a breast cancer awareness event Tuesday night, I didn’t have the energy. So I said no, and opted for a chill night with my husband. We had cereal for dinner, got caught up on a few things, and watched the Blacklist. (If you watch it, don’t tell me what happens! We just now started Season 3.) It was a lovely night, and it was a exactly what I needed.

Am I the only one? Any one else struggle to find the balance between saying yes to time commitments or no for time to recharge?


ps. picture is of me on lovely rooftop in Geneva, Switzerland. What a lovely place to recharge.